Last week, I saw a photo on Instagram with a text that says something like this:
Mom 1: How do you teach your child to read and not use gadgets?
Mom 2: I don’t teach him, I show him.
(If you’re the mom who shared this and you’re reading this, please let me know! Would love to reference you because I couldn’t find the post)
I couldn’t agree more.
I’m not claiming to be the perfect mom nor the best. Well, except that my son thinks I’m the best. Haha. But I’ve proven this to be true many times in our parenting journey. I’m actually learning from it too and have become more conscious about what I say, and most importantly do.
Kids copy what we do almost all the time!
He sees me make lists for grocery and reminders, so he does the same.
He sees me record my IG/FB videos for my #midweekboost and does the same. (For personal consumption only)
He sees me and his dad work using our laptops, and he made himself his own laptop.
He sees me eating my salad, so he eats lettuce too.
And the list goes on….
What really struck me though is how my son developed his understanding of love and concern through actions. One time, I had a headache and told him I’ll take a nap. He put the blanket over me, got my cellphone to play lullabies and sat beside me to lightly tap my leg. Isn’t that sweet? What’s interesting is that it’s the same things we do for him when putting him to sleep. 🙂 And just recently, while I was in the kitchen preparing snacks, I screamed when a bag of ice slipped and fell off from the freezer. A few seconds later, my little hero was running out of the room toward me asking me what happened and why I screamed. Wow. And it actually made me feel a bit guilty because I’ve been slightly complaining about him calling me for something petty (such as checking out what’s on TV) when he knows I’m out doing something. (Yes he knows because I always make sure to tell him what I’m going to do before I leave him). Every time he calls me, I rush to him because hey, who knows if it’s really urgent right? And it’s the exact same thing he did for me — rush to me like a hero when I screamed.
Parenting is not rocket science. While I do read books about positive parenting — well, okay, I read the first few pages — there are things I learn simply just by mindfully living each day with my child. At the end of the day, a child is a human being, whom we treat with respect, kindness and love. And values like kindness, generosity, forgiveness, concern, faithfulness and love are learned best through actions.